There’s no such thing as happy breakup. Every break up is painful, exhausting, and painful. Each one of us have different kinds of coping up after a breakup; some would jump into a new relationship right away, some would just shake it off and move the hell on immediately, and there are those who are still hoping for their love to come back.
Few months ago, I went through a breakup. I was so devastated and lost. Imagine doing everything you could just to make a relationship work that in the end, will only fall into flames. Unfortunately, I learned my lessons in the hard and most painful way. It was a toxic relationship. I will not deny the fact that it was a happy relationship at first, but then many things has happened that everything just started to go downhill and we slowly drifted apart. These are some of the things I did to survive my breakup that might help you…
Indulge yourself through the pain..
They say it was a heartbreak, but every inch of me was in pain. All I did was to lie in bed, breathe, and cry. My mind keeps on asking all the whys that I do not have answers to. There were nights that I would get tired of crying and would fall asleep, but hours later I would find myself again in the dark, crying. It. Was. Just. Too. Painful.
Cry as much as you want..
I cried like there’s no tomorrow. I did not stop myself from crying whenever or wherever I feel it. I will never forget the day I was in the middle of work, tears kept running through my eyes, I was trying so hard to control it but I just could not make it stop. My eyes were like broken faucet that could not stop running tears. It’s dehydrating but duh! * Dramaaa* Haha!
Do whatever you want..
As long as it will make you feel better. Don’t get me wrong, of course not those things that might hurt you physically or what. Wanna go shopping? Go. You want to drink? Sure. Feel like sleeping all day? Do it. Just remember, don’t do things that you know you would regret. Gets?
Ask for help whenever you think you need to..
I cannot imagine surviving a breakup without the help of my friends and family. I am very lucky to have supportive friends who are willing to listen to my unending kadramahan during these days. I appreciate their effort to listen and to give advice to me, even though they know I’d still end up doing what I wish to do. Haha!
As shameful as it is, most of us only talk to Him when we are going through phases like this. As for myself, this breakup helped me to become more closer to Him. I was so exhausted, I woke up one day and I realized, I do not want to feel the pain anymore…. I prayed for the pain to stop and I prayed for my heart to accept the things that I do not have control anymore.
Sometimes, it’s hard to see the good in painful situations. Breakups are messy, painful, and exhausting. But remember when you survive, a new version of you will come out from it. A stronger and wiser you. Remember that everything is temporary, even that pain you are feeling right now. I know it’s cliche and you’re probably tired of hearing this, but it is true, “Time heals all wounds”.